From the Littlest Frill to the Rest of the World

I’ll give you a guess which one is me, given this post. Taken by doctorginger

One of the reasons I was into Lolita fashion was that I could fit into the clothes. I’m well under 5 feet and not growing anymore anytime soon. Being extremely petite makes find any clothes in XS or shoes in size 5 is like mining a beach with a metal detector. So noticing that most of the Japanese sizes were more to my measurements I was very thrilled.

However I slowly learned this was not always the case.

There are cries from people that Lolita fashion designers should make things larger to accommodate fuller figures and larger sizes. There are also people who try to drastically lose weight to fit into the clothes so they can actually have room to breathe. There are plenty of posts about which pieces and Lolita brands that can fit almost any size.

But what about the other side of the spectrum?

Personally, I can tell you it’s not all that great either and there’s no reason to be jealous. You chances of looking more childlike increases by alot. A lot. You have to pay more attention to minimum measurements than the maximum. Ribbon-laced corsets can only do so much (and forget about shirring).

A lot of items will fit but not all; and it might even be your dream dress. As a result I’ve come to accept and learn a few things.

You won’t always fit into everything. My first brand dress was an Alice and the Pirates sailor jumperskirt. I bought it online directly from the shop and was ecstatic when it arrived. However the dress was still big when loosely cinched with the belt. It was closer to my ankles than I would’ve liked. I looked a five-year-old ready to head to the beach. Look at the all measurement closely and also look at the range (if there is some shirring or too much room for a blouse). Make sure you fall midway or a well above the minimum. And make sure all the measurements are closer to your own. A waist might be fine but then the bust might be too big. Or the bust is perfectly but the rest is a tent.

Brands that are forgiving and not. I feel this is an obligatory section since some people may need specifics. Victorian Maiden pays attention to one size and one size only; so exact measurements are important. Unfortunately this is probably the reason it is my favorite designer. I do know Angelic Pretty runs smaller alot of the times, but only if you like Sweeter or do retro-pop styles. Metamorphose is more generous to those who are fuller so should be considered if you like that looser fit. Baby the Stars Shine Bright and Innocent World are brands that I turn to more often and fill majority of my closet. However regardless of designer brand, I hold the measurement of the garment above all.

It’s going to be a little long. Most people when they seen Lolita coordinates and press images, the dress or skirt is usually above knee-length. But if you are classified as petite (under 5’5”) then it will most likely be a little below the knee. Sometimes a lot, in my case. However this works to your advantage as the length will appear more Mad-Men era style – a little above your ankle and well past your knee. Check the overall length since sometimes long can be too long, making you too short.

Shirring does not work in reverse. Someone said this at a panel about Lolita Style and Coordination. And it’s true. While this feature is a godsend for fuller figured people, clothes that have full-shirring (as in all the way round) should largely be avoided if you petite (and not necessarily busty). Clothes with half or a small amount of shirring is alright if there needs to be a small amount of stretch.

Ribbon-laced corsets are the exact same. There is such a thing as too cinched. When you can’t see a corset style at all and there’s still room then it wasn’t made to fit you. While this could be covered up with a cardigan or jacket, you can’t hide the extra long ribbons. (I still love my Chained Berry Memoir though)

The problem with flats. No one likes being vertically challenged, no matter how short/tall you are. With flats and rounded toes you can sometimes appear more childlike than you want. Heels not only make you slightly taller but give you a nice age-appropriate look. Chunky, wine-glass shaped heels are better than stiletto thin and have a more retro-look about them. However I don’t recommend wearing heels if you are not comfortable in them. They do take a lot of practice and you can seriously injure yourself if you don’t wear them all the time. Kitten heels work just as well and serve as a nice in between option. But if you like wear flats and tea-parties that’s just as fine. (They’re just not for me.)

Objects may look taller than they appear. For a petite person, you have to break up the your silhouette form. Style blogs often say wear skirts or natural waist items for an even-proportioned look. Unless you are going for boystyle you can’t change the skirt/dress portion by making it shorter. For a Lolita this means making parts look short and longer than they appear to be. A high-waisted skirt and ankle boots help people see you have legs and give a slight illusion you are a little taller. Cropped jackets bring more attention to the upper half and elongating the rest. A high-collared shirt can also force you to stand a little straighter and your head a little higher.

Give it up or coordinate really well. Let’s say you own a dress and you don’t want to sell it – but the fit is too big in some areas. And you don’t want to tailor it. For a skirt that is slightly too loose add a cute belt to cinch it in place. If the armholes or the chest is too large, cover-up with a nice cardigan or a suit jacket. Misako sometimes does this with coordinates. This makes a look more fitted. Another thing is if you are willing to do it is to tailor it yourself or take it to a tailor. If you plan to put it to good use and wear it a lot then by all means tailor.

But if you are unwilling to do any of these things, unfortunately you will have part with it. And I’ve parted with quite a few things both Lolita and regular clothes and shoes.

Majority of this is based on my own experiences and I’m only my own below-average size. As such I can’t relate to a lot of people, but I do hope that you can relate to me if you have the same or similar issues.

I’m also not asking designers to make more items for smaller sizes.

I’m just saying to not forget that small people have problems too.

7 Cute and Almost Essential Items for the Kitchen

If you like to cook and wear Lolita, please wear an apron. Just don’t lick the bowl with your fingers when you do.

Living in the city is hard and hectic.  Sometimes you just need a cute apartment to make it better.  Sometimes that cute apartment is out of your price range.  Sometimes you also live with a significant other, making it difficult to fight that urge to cover every inch in Hello Kitty items or look like you’ve just stepped into Candyland.

The kitchen doesn’t have to be one of them. The kitchen can be you “happy place” from all that. That is if you are the cooking-type or want to learn.

To compromise, make sure what you’re using to furnish your apartment is also cute but functional. It’s hard to complain when you can’t find a spatula to flip that pancake and you get handed one shaped like Snow White (or Darth Vader).

Below are a few items that I find are not only kitschy, but most important of all functional for a very cute kitchen.

Toaster
Cute: It’s Hello Kitty.
Functional: Everyone needs a toaster. It’s easy than turning on the oven and wasting heat on just one bagel every morning. However don’t expect to get a kitty face on your toast, unless you prefer the burnt kind.
Where: Local department stores or Amazon.

Cutting boards
Cute: It’s Hello Kitty.
Functional: Cutting boards are usually in that they are a flat surface you are allowed to chop, dice, and slice into it. I recommend a board about a 1/4″ thick and roughly paper-size. You can have at least two – one for veggies and meat and one small one for cheese or bread. Or three if you live with a vegetarian, but aren’t one yourself. (Note: I don’t recommend the flat baking sheet ones – they tend to curl and too thin if you don’t know how to handle knives too well.)
Where: The one you see here is a spare and just for show. I bought this at Jusco when I was in Hong Kong two summers ago. You can find cute ones practically anywhere.

Timers and graters
Cute: It’s an ice cream cone that’s a timer.
Functional: Timers can be used for anything from gauging time until you wash dyed hair to baking cookies — even telling you when it’s time to switch from washer to dryer on laundry day.
Where: This one was found in one of the Holiday Shops stands in Union Square, but you can find timers in any kitchen department.  Cute ones can also be found on ModCloth.

Pots and pans.
Cute: Not exactly, but you can buy pink ones to support cancer foundations. Or go for copper bottom ones for a more vintage feel.
Functional: Pots and pans are essentially to cooking. When starting apartment life, you should have at least one of each and of varying sizes.  Small pots and pans are great for ramen cooking and other one-pot meals.
Where: In the kitchen department at your local department stores.

Farberware Resin Knife

Knife set
Cute: Who knew knives could be color coded? If you are just moving into a new apartment, I suggest a set like this.
Functional: This set comes with 5 knives, ranging from large to small. I don’t own this type of set, but I can tell you if you can’t afford it, purchase the large Santoku and the small paring knife. These will probably be the only ones you use the most. (Note: According to Amazon, they are not as sharp as they seem but I suggest investing in a knife sharpening as well)
Where: This particular set can be found on Amazon, but for New Yorkers I have seen them in Century 21 in the Housewares department.

left to right: Red Riding Hood, Alice, Monokuro Boo

Glasses
Cute: Who says you need to drink out of boring and plain cups? The ones on the far right were are first “cute” set, and reminded of when Nana bought strawberry cups for her and her new roommate.
Functional: You need glasses to drink out. Unless you are “that guy” who drinks out of a carton.
Where: The first six were purchased at Fish’s Eddy, a place I strongly recommend for dinnerware. They have deadstock vintage sets from old diners, retro-looking serving dishes, and plain bowls for those who like them that way.

Sandwich maker
Cute: Makes Hello Kitty imprints on your sandwiches
Functional: It’s more frivolous than functional. You don’t really need a sandwich maker, unless you are a person who eats grilled cheese for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and needs to mix things up. My suggestion is if you had to choose between this and a waffle maker – go for the waffle maker. You use them both equally as little.
Where: This was a Christmas gift, but I’ve seen them in Target. Also when in doubt, Amazon.

I hope this was useful for those who wear Lolita and want to incorporate their love into other parts of their lives. And even if you’re not I hope this was still helpful when it comes to having your own apartment.

Is there anything else you would recommend to a Lolita buying a first apartment? Any kitchen furnishing tips, or general kitchen tips to add?

Literature for that Fashion Confidence Boost

Sometimes wearing Lolita is not enough to get you to take that step out that door to the outside world. Wearing clothes that are beyond your plain t-shirt and jeans combo is weird to other people. And wearing Lolita makes you appear like you’re from another planet.

Even before you look into that mirror to see if your headbow is straight or if your pettioat has enough poof, I recommend these three books to build confidence:

Fierce Style – This book surprised me as it was not only a fashion memoir/biography of the youngest Project Runway winner, Christian Siriano, but held down-to-earth, real advice (yes, really) on what to wear and how to wear clothes that flatter woman of all shapes and sizes. And you can find it at H&M, along Fifth Avenue, and of course, by Christian Siriano.

Eccentric Glamour – Ever walk by Barney’s and see those window displays and wonder who is crazy enough to come up with them? Simon Doonan was the creative director behind those insane displays that bordered between fashion and modern art. In his latest book, his witty personality and bold confidence will surely convince anyone wanting to try their hand at Lolita fashion and just go for it.

Hungry: A Young Model’s Story of Appetite, Ambition and the Ultimate Embrace of Curves – Crystal Renn is a model. And like all models she had to live up to the image of thin is beautiful. As a result she suffered from anorexia nervosa. Then she decided to just be herself and is now a size 12, happy, and still a sought after model. Hungry is her journey hungry to happy to be who she really is.

All of these books can be found in your local bookstore.

Lolita Therapy: Tackling the Frill Monster in the Closet Part 1

Anna Sui’s Closet – Elle Decor

Apartment Therapy is one of my favorite websites. It not only provides helpful resources to find furniture and other home tutorials, but also provides pictures of other apartments to help you get organized in the right way.

I find this especially helpful in Lolita fashion. As such I’m going to start a series called “Lolita Therapy” to discuss such topics like how to slim down the wardrobe, store your petticoats and hats, accenting your kitchen, and just plain keeping neat. The posts won’t try to turn you into a neat freak, but more keep your Lolita side organized and in check.

As you’ve started your Lolita wardrobe, I’m sure you’ve realized that one closet won’t simple do. Your bedroom is already brimming with skirts, dresses, petticoats, and shoes, but it’s still growing. It’s probably to the point where you just have masses of skirts in piles on top of chairs because you’re not sure where to put it all. (Note: This is even harder when you live in NYC and you have only one closet to share with your significant other or roommate.)

What you’ve got yourself is a frill monster – a collection of Lolita clothes that has no where to go but everywhere. (Keep in mind this happens with small wardrobes too!)

It’s best to keep your Lolita closet seperate from your regular closet. This prevents unfortunate mishaps like pulling out AP’s Cherry Berry Bunny JSK when all you wanted was that cute chick yellow blouse you’ve been meaning to wear.

However this doesn’t mean you literally should have two different closets: one for Lolita, one for regular clothes (If you do, I’m super jealous.) More like have a mental library of what’s Lolita, what’s regular clothes, and what’s both. With a mental catalog you can balance out your closets so one does not overtake the other. The world is simply not ready for an entire wardrobe of Lolita clothes, unless you are Maki and Asuka. This will allow your Lolita wardrobe to grow at a normal place than exploding.

One way to seperate your clothes is by color-coding your hangers (e.g. pink or white for Lolita, black or another color for regular clothes). I find using ultra-thin hangers are the best way to go. They not only slim down your closet, but also can give you an idea on how much room you have for future clothes. You can find them at any department store like Target or Kmart, but I prefer The Container Store.

If you must have a separate wardrobe, aim for an armoire (more expensive route) or a portable storage closet(less expensive). Reserve jumperskirts, OPs, and blouses to be hung up. Skirts, pants, socks, and anything knit can be easily stored in totes — when you need them all you have to do is fluff it out. The storage totes at The Container Store come in an array of colors and prints. For a more classic look, scour vintage shops and vintage flea markets for trunks.

Housingworks is a thrift shop I like to go to for furniture browsing and designer shoes. The great thing about Housingworks is that all purchases go towards helping people who are living with HIV/AIDs. When it comes to thrifting you have to be sure to inspect every nook and cranny to find any flaws that you may or may not want to deal with.

It’s best to start inside your closet first and use every space from top to bottom. Perhaps shoe racks at the bottom. Stackable drawers for socks and pants. (Note: wherever you keep your socks you should have dividers or separaters. They not only keep your socks neat, but make it easy to find both pairs together!) Top shelving for any clothes you aren’t wearing that season, and middle shelving for anything in between.

One last thing I recommend is not neccessarily cleaning out your closet, but reorganizing it every few months. Sadly this means taking everything out and putting it back in a more organized fashion. Though I’m sure a lot of Lolitas do this as they find items they’ve never worn or simple have outgrown or was never there style.

Sounds common sense enough, but when it comes does to actually organizing your Lolita closet it can be overwhelming. I hope this helps when you realize your frill monster is out of control. Are there any particular ways that you try to organize your growing closet?

The Container Store – Locations
(58th and Lexington)
725 Lexington Avenue
New York, NY 10022

(Sixth Avenue)
629 Sixth Avenue
New York, NY 10011

Housingworks – Locations
(Brooklyn)
122 Montague Street
Brooklyn, New York 11201
718-237-0521

(Chelsea)
143 West 17th St.
New York, NY 10011
718-838-5050

(Gramercy)
157 East 23rd St.
New York, NY 10010
212-529-5955

(Hell’s Kitchen)
730-732 9th Avenue
New York, NY 10019
646-963-2665

(Soho)
130 Crosby Street
New York, NY 10012
646-786-1200

(Tribeca)
119 Chambers St.
New York, NY 10007
212-732-0584

(Upper East Side)
202 East 77th St.
New York, NY 10021
212-772-8461

(Upper West Side)
306 Columbus Ave.
New York, NY 10023
212-579-7566

(West Village)
245 West 10th St.
New York, NY 10014
212-352-1618

(Yorkville)
1730 2nd Ave.
New York, NY 10128
212-722-8306